Remembering Them With Love
When a loved one dies, they will be forever in our hearts and thoughts. Alive in Memory encourages you to document your cherished memories and share their lives with others.
Quiet as a Mouse
Margareta’s baby brother, Paxton – who isn’t much of a baby anymore – just started preschool this month. He is about the same age as Margareta was when she started, and he goes to the same preschool she went to. While there are many, many similarities…
Ellie’s Last Sticky Note
Six-year-old Ellie was always watching people. One day, she noticed that I was leaving encouraging sticky notes around the house for Mommy. She informed me “Daddy, where is my note?” She was irresistible! I began to write her notes and leave them where she would find them…
Her Favorite Things
“Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens…” My daughter, Margareta, never got to sing this song from the Sound of Music, but my guess is that she would have loved both the song and the movie. She died before she was old...
Cootie Crazy
Hello Little Girl, The same day Anna and I took you to the Farmer's Market in Sacramento (I don't remember if it was before or after), you and I played "Cootie". For some reason, we were in the house alone and I retrieved the game from the closet. I remember I bought...
A Letter to My Daughter on Her (Would Have Been) 8th Birthday
Dear Margareta, On September 1, you would have turned eight years old. It will be the fourth birthday we have to celebrate without you here to celebrate it with us. The fourth time we have to sing "Happy Birthday" while holding back the tears. After this month is...
If I Only Had a Brain
Ever since she was born, I sang songs to my daughter, Margareta. I had my short list of favorites, and would sing them usually to get her settled down to sleep, but over time I would sing to her throughout the day whenever the moment struck me. I even added my own...
The Stormy Beach
I thought of this story because I was talking about protecting Philip, and because of how deeply we’re affected by the vulnerability we share with our kids. Because we do share it. I might be the one who’s supposed to be doing the protecting, but look at the price I...
My Friend Forever
I met Sue when I interviewed her as a potential daycare provider for my son. She was a larger than life personality, but at the same time, gentle and loving. She had a special way with children that was clear from that very first interaction with my son. I recall her...
In the Garden
During her visit in late spring of 2009, our sister Patsy planted a wonderful vegetable garden on the side of our house with the help of our kids. We had been wanting a garden for a while, so we watered and cared for the garden in anticipation of the carrots,...
Fancy Girl
We try to go to parades throughout the year, and many of them result in a collection of colorful mardi gras beads. Our daughter, Margareta, loved to wear them, as it brought out the "girly" side of her dual tomboy/girly girl personality. Not satisfied with just...
Dedication
This website was inspired by the memory of Margareta Sol Kubitz in hopes of helping others work through the pain of grief.